It has become customary in some quarters for the first Friday 13th of the year (and this Friday is just that – the first Fri 13th of 2010) to be “BSE day”- Blame Someone Else day! And it's an excuse to blame others for everything that goes wrong (internet/ web based card companies have latched onto it and you can send suitably negative downloadable greetings to people!)
But… The Blaming and Complaining Virus is our worst pandemic! It destroys our businesses, it destroys our careers, it destroys our teams, our friendships, our relationships and our families. And it destroys us.
So rather than seeking to blame and complain; it’s time to TPR.
Take Personal Responsibility
All successful people begin by taking one fundamental step. That step is to realise that they are fully responsible for their own success. Whether that’s business success, showbiz success, sporting success, personal success. They all know that in the end it’s down to them: “If it’s to be, it’s up to me!” They Take Personal Responsibility.
So, instead of making Friday 13th BSE day (blame someone else), make it TPR day… and discover the difference.
Rather than assuming that we'll get bad luck on Friday 13th, and that everything is someone else's fault, it's a day for thinking highly positively about how much personal control and responsibility we have over our own lives, our own successes, and that we can make our own luck!
... to make Friday 13th a real TPR day - and these are usable on any day!!!
1. Don’t blame the traffic, government, weather, economy, or any external factors for the way you feel… you have a choice over your attitude. Never complain, never explain, never blame – yourself or others.
2. If you don’t feel enthusiastic or excited about your life, just Act as if you were enthusiastic and excited.
3. If you want to feel more energetic, Act energetic. Change the focus from “Losing weight” to “Gaining Energy”.
4. The Napoleon factor: “Est-il hereux?” Napoleon famously made the final decision when promoting his officers to the most senior positions by asking “Is he lucky?” and yet the literal translation is “Is he happy?” Those with a sunny demeanour create their own luck. Create a sunny disposition. Even a rainy day is no match for a sunny disposition.
5. Create mind images of positive outcomes in every situation: for example, if you create a positive image in your mind of a meeting in advance, you’ll have a positive meeting.
6. Use the “Elastic Banned” method to remove images and associations in your mind which are counter-productive.
7. Do something kind and good, just for the hell of it!
8. Decide that you do have a choice over every action you take.
9. Pause momentarily before responding to whatever is happening around you… whether you have been cut up in traffic, or someone has made a misplaced comment, or you are being misunderstood, or have misunderstood someone else. Pause.
10. If something is “bugging” you, decide what factors you do have control over in sorting it out, and act on these factors only.
11. If you have a troubling decision to make, the first decision is to decide when you will have come to an answer; give yourself a timescale, and then decide how you are going to think about your options, before determining your course of action.
12. As well as the logic of every situation, pay heed to your gut-feeling and use it today to guide you in making an important choice.
13. Recognise that there are no Coincidences in life… opportunities come along for you to take. At least one opportunity will arrive today. Will you see it? Decide that this Friday 13th is going to be a day of amazing good luck… there will be an opportunity you can take which will come along for you today, I promise.